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The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 07, 2024, 09:16:36 PM »
I don’t know how much of an update this is going to be. It’s been a very quiet day because I failed to find anything to do with myself besides reading news stories that irritated me, followed by sets of comic strips that relieved some of the irritation. I actually found some that were in no way political, which made a pleasant change.

I got an extra James-free night last night because he had today off to balance out a day he worked but forgot to enter his hours for. Yeah, I don't know how he managed that either. It did mean having him home for a big chunk of the day, before he decided to go spend time with Julie. She is doing well enough to move out of assisted living and into a kind of women's group home, where she'll have people nearby if she needs a bit of support without having caregivers constantly in her face. Hopefully just having people there will be enough to keep her honest when it comes to taking care of herself.

Today would have been great for pool time if it had opened that little bit earlier. I saw someone from the county health department doing the annual inspection, and we must have passed because the office sent email about Monday's opening. I gave in and told them that if anyone's pool buddy does a no show, and I'm around, they can call on me. The opportunity for that will be limited because on James work nights, I go upstairs at 8, and the pool doesn't close until 9. Most of the rain is now out of the forecast, with the exception being next weekend, and that far out the forecast is unlikely to be accurate.

I’ve heard from the folks who did the study that involved repeatedly playing drunk and trying to buy a joint several months ago. This time they should be appraising pot shops in areas I can get to, so I’ve signed myself up again. I’m hoping to work with the same partner because we had a good dynamic going. This iteration of the project will be July 10-13, which is wide open on my schedule. Thankfully, this time the days will be long enough for us not to be hanging out in skeevy neighborhoods in the dark.

A couple of days ago, James noticed a star chip in the window behind the couch. Since technically it’s outside the walls, I emailed to find out if the condominium might be responsible for the repair. Alas, they’re not. James will be doing the research to get it fixed, but I might end up paying for it because I have the money. I just hope the $1,000 estimate I found at the one place I looked at online is not typical.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 06, 2024, 08:18:38 PM »
I’m getting used to rising and (maybe) shining an hour earlier. Then again, on James work days, I’m awake earlier than that because of his alarms. Last night I did fall asleep in front of the TV close enough to bedtime that I missed the end of what I was watching and accidentally found myself at the beginning of the next thing. No big deal, though, since these days everything’s in reruns anyway.

Last night/this morning Callisto decided she wanted to sleep on my pillow, which got very crowded. With Baal I can just shove him over, but she's a lot heavier and also much more inclined to dig in with her claws. We may need to have a chat about sleeping arrangements before I end up with a terribly stiff neck.

I got myself out to the bank and Safeway, but I didn’t have the patience to deal with shoes that might fight back, so I wore the old floppy ones. Interestingly, the teller tried briefly to steer me in the direction of a credit card I’ve been pre-approved for, but I really don’t need more plastic. For some reason he also wouldn’t let me do a partial deposit and partial cash back with the check, so I had to deposit the whole thing and then do a separate withdrawal. Oh, well. It worked out the same in the end.

Since I was right there anyway, on my way back I stopped into PetSmart to see if they’d gone back to having adoptable cats. They didn’t, but I got some puppy love from two sweet dogs. One was overly enthusiastic and kind of an attention hog, so I had to put some effort into making sure the other got her share of the attention.

At Safeway, the “oops, we baked to much” rack wasn’t out, so I ended up going to the bakery proper, where it was behind the counter. I asked about it, and the person who was supposed to have put it out admitted that she’d forgotten. She waited to move it all the way to where it belonged until after I’d made my selection – cheddar/jalapeño round bread. I’d have preferred more onion ones, but these will do, and with only six of them, my mouth won’t have a chance to get bored.

The sewing is all done except for anything the jeans that aren't here yet need. I love the way the new banner looks, though I had to apply some glue stick under the fabric loops to keep them from migrating in toward the center because of the wind. And it's such a joy to be able to wear the pants I have on without constantly needing to hike them up.
Life and Current Events / Re: Little Things That Piss Us Off {Vent Thread}
« Last post by marvel girl on June 06, 2024, 09:29:02 AM »
I hate that relationships have traumatized me. It just makes trusting that much harder each time.

I don't want to believe what he said when it's "easier" to text me to end things because of how I reacted to him expressing his emotions before, but I do and it makes me feel like I'm the problem every time. Even though I know texting instead of calling is an awful thing to do and I didn't deserve that, I somehow feel like it is my fault and he's right. I want to apologize to him and everyone, I feel like such a failure and a letdown. Again.

I just want to be loved and cared for for who I am, to be reassured through my insecurities when they do happen. But so far, it just seems to be too much for others I want to build a life with. Even though I feel like I've come a long way with it all, I still feel so undeserving because of it. I'm broken and scarred, and I keep being cast aside to break those wounds open again and again. I try so hard, and it's never enough. And watching everyone else around me seem to find partners so much more easily hurts, even if I'm happy for them. It makes me want to remind them to cherish who and what they have, for it's truly priceless. Some of them might never realize just how fortunate they really are.

Now I have to rebuild myself again, and unfortunately, the walls are going up even higher and stronger than before.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 05, 2024, 08:05:25 PM »
Progress on the cat front continues. Yesterday evening when I went upstairs to change into PJs, Callisto was sleeping on my pillow. Then later, when I went back into the bedroom to put away my slippers because my feet were too hot, she was still there, and Albus was at the foot of the bed. For some reason Callisto left when James started getting ready for bed, but she came back once we were settled and spent the rest of the night with us. This morning, when I went upstairs to pick up the sewing stuff, I took a peek and found Callisto on my pillow and Frey on James's. Just when I think I have them figured out, they change something.

For the first time in ages, I went out for a walk wearing the army shoes. It was only a short walk, to, around, and back from Target, but still… Better than nothing. And now I have meal replacement drinks and high-protein cookies for the mornings when I need to be out of here before my stomach is awake enough for real breakfast. I also picked up some more antacids and toothpaste, since I’m approaching almost out of both. My feet were slightly sore by the end, but I might be all right for more walking tomorrow.

I’ll need to go out tomorrow for a couple of reasons. First, Colin’s check for the forest witch shoot was in today’s mail, which made me smile a lot. I’m really enjoying getting paid for what I love doing anyway. Second, I’ll be eating the last of the breakfast bread tomorrow. I’m kinda hoping for more round bread because it’s really hit the spot. I’ve realized that I need bread that doesn't last as long as a loaf because I’m bored stiff with it before it’s all gone. Maybe I should invite James to share whenever I get a loaf, since he’s a bread fan.

In a sterling example of how I suck at sticking to a plan, today I moved on with the actual sewing part of the project. It's now done except for the banner, and I might go back to it after I finish this, though with as goopy as my eyes have gotten, I may or may not be able to achieve enough clearness to be able to see the eye of a fine needle.

Both of the elasticized waistband things turned out to be more complicated than I'd anticipated because I had to go back and open up more of the waistband than would have been ideal. In one case, the area where the pockets were attached - yes, they extended up into the waistband - there were a lot of layers, and I couldn't find the right ones to feed the elastic through no matter how hard I tried, so I opened up just enough to see what I was doing. In the other, it turned out that I'd sewn together the fabric and the old elastic while performing at least one previous round of surgery, and I had to snip enough stitches so the elastic came free, and I could pull it out. Anyway, I'm back to wearing the trousers I'd been wearing, and they feel a world better with functioning elastic.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 04, 2024, 09:58:01 PM »
We had a girl cat in bed with us again last night, still transported by James. Interestingly, Albus is all right with sharing the bed with her, but Baal isn’t. Albus was the first brother Callisto got along with at all, and she is a lot bigger (fatter) than Baal, which could be an explanation for the difference in attitudes.

Purely by accident, I got a start on the sewing stuff last night. The pair of loose legging things that need the elastic detached from the waistband and shortened were on top of the sewing box, which I decided to leave upstairs until the rest of the project is ready to go, and I realized that I might as well get going on the detaching while I was watching TV upstairs. That bit is now done, and I think tonight I might start picking out stitching from the elastic in the nearly dead jeans. There are three or four rows of stitching, and I can remove most of them without making the jeans unwearable if I decide I need to wear them one more time.

For one brief, shining moment, I thought I’d found a replacement for the chest of drawers I’ve wanted to replace for years. The office sent email about a resident who was giving away a dresser, and by the pictures it was good real wood instead of composite. I called the number and caught the seller before she’d even had her morning coffee, so she said she’d call me back when she was ready for a visitor. Spoiler alert: she didn’t, and while I was waiting, I realized that it was a tossup whether the dresser would just fit or just not. Rather than pursuing her, I decided to take the no.

I’ve read the whole new Rizzoli & Isles book, and it was excellent. I wanted to tell James about it, but I realized that’s hard to do because of how late we find out why things have happened the way they did, and the actions themselves are quite complicated and interwoven. All of that is what makes the books so good, but it also makes them hard to describe.

I finally got credit for that week-long survey I submitted a week and a half ago, and I’ve redeemed my points. Now I just need to get the gift card I requested, which will hopefully happen at about the same time I put in for my next gift card from search points. Then I should be able to order the next two books without investing much real money. I’m really tempted to cut to the chase and shell out the real money for the rest of the series, but I just can’t bring myself to do it. Well, I can’t right now. We’ll see what happens when I’m actually on Amazon.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 03, 2024, 08:16:12 PM »
Last night we both went to bed at 10, and even that was a stretch for how exhausted we were. This morning I was awake enough at 7:30 to start what I hope will be my new sleep routine. For weekdays, anyway. Weekends will probably stay as they were, since I wake up James when I go downstairs, and even when he’s not up all night, he is up for enough of it to need the extra hour of sleep.

I've done the trying on part of the bottoms project (and now I need more shorts), and I've decided to hold off on the dismantling/sewing part until after the Temu jeans get here so I can do it all at once. (Also because the new Rizzoli & Isles book has arrived, and I want to read it first.) I do feel like I'm living dangerously ordering jeans from Temu, and I probably wouldn't be that adventurous if the ones I ordered didn't have an elasticized waist - something I only buy for sitting around clothes so I can indulge my laziness by not having to deal with fastenings when I need the loo. This time they specified Asian sizes, with measurements showing when you mouse-over, and I ordered the XL, which looked close enough. I expect to have to shorten the legs because that's just a fact of life, but they're a cotton blend rather than all cotton so they shouldn't shrink in the wash.

I've also added another bit of sewing. We have what used to be a lovely banner of a sea goddess hanging out on the deck, but it's been out there so long it's lost a lot of its color, so I decided to replace it with an equally but differently lovely Hecate banner I found on Etsy. Unlike the existing one, the new one doesn't have a top hem that's big enough to slide a dowel through for hanging purposes, so I'm going to add some loops to the top. I have the fabric that I cut off the little black dress I shortened, and the part that forms the hem is well suited for turning into strips to make the loops from. I've done that cutting, and the pieces are in a spot where they shouldn't attract the attention of cats.

In acting news, I got confirmation that I will be involved in a “summit” for screenwriters and actors put on by the guy who did the shooter training film. He does them periodically, and this will be #7 in the series, taking place on Sunday at the same place. The writers will have shiny new scripts that we actors will cold read for them. Between now and then I need to pick up some meal replacement drinks so I can have one for breakfast before I hit the road. I’ll probably go to Target, possibly even tomorrow, because it’s close, and I can pick up some other stuff while I’m there. Like antacids, without which my nights would be much less comfortable.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 02, 2024, 06:57:17 PM »
Not much to update about because Sunday. Also, I had a crap night last night, probably because I napped too much during the day yesterday, so today I'm sleepy even without the help of the humidity and a newsworthy pollen count. I'm hoping for some good sleep tonight, even if it means moving to the new cat room. James was up basically all night last night, so I'm rather expecting him to crash early, and if he's snoring when I'm ready to go to bed, I'll definitely be relocating from the beginning.

I've come up with a small project for myself. I have three small drawers of bottom clothing - full trousers, capris, and shorts of various lengths - that I want to go through and pull out the ones I wear rarely if ever. Some I've held onto because they're all right, but I like them so much less than the ones I wear regularly that they might as well get donated so someone else can enjoy them. Some probably don't fit.

There's one pair I can think of that would benefit a lot from tighter elastic in the waist, but it's one where the elastic is sewn into the waistband so it will take some work. Now is a good time because I don't really have anything else to keep my hands busy in front of the TV. I also want to pick the elastic out of the very shabby jeans that will be going away once my Temu order arrives, and I confirm that those jeans are comfortable. The elastic coming out is still very strong, so I want to use it to replace the elastic in the trousers I have on, which has perished to the point that just shortening it no longer accomplishes anything.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on June 01, 2024, 09:06:13 PM »
This is probably going to be a short update. It’s been one of those days when I just couldn’t get it in gear, and every time I thought I did, the clutch slipped. That must have been going around because we barely finished breakfast before James stretched out for a floor nap that lasted until he was ready to go out to visit friends.

I did get laundry done. It all fit comfortably into one load, so finishing it off took very little time. The very casual jeans that will be replaced and retired when my Temu order gets here were in it for what should have been their last washing. My plan is to cut off the bottom six inches or so, which are in good enough shape to be used for patches, and salvage the elastic in the waist, which is still very strong and can replace the failing elastic currently in the pants I’m wearing, which are otherwise in good shape. It may seem like a lot of effort for the benefit, but I have trouble finding pants that are comfortable enough for sitting around in.

Lunch was chicken nuggets with horsey sauce for dipping. They might have upset my stomach, or just eating might have done that. After lunch I took a nap of my own and then decided to try opening the deck door for some air. We hit our high of 72, which is a couple of degrees above the trigger point for the heat, but it's also horribly muggy, which is probably part of why I’ve been so sleepy all day. There's rain in the forecast for tomorrow through Tuesday, which will hopefully clear the air before the summer temperatures roll in. I'm hoping I'll be able to stick to my plan for the summer, since historically I've done well at making plans but sucked at sticking to them.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on May 31, 2024, 09:19:23 PM »
I don’t know how much of an update this is going to be. The energy I had for part of the day has deserted me, and I’m yawning my face off. Besides, I didn’t actually accomplish much.

Last night James didn't come to bed until after I was already settled, and he didn't carry Callisto, so we just had the customary white cats. At least she no longer turns into a limpet as soon as she's picked up, though James found out the hard way that carrying her while shirtless is not a good idea.

I decided it was time to see if I had enough change to roll and take to the bank, and I did have enough quarters and pennies. They went in to the bank, and I walked out with a $10 bill and two quarters. After that I wasn’t ready to go home, so I walked farther down the street on one side and back on the other, looking for wild plants I might want to bring home and plant in the gardenette. I saw a few, but I’m not sure I have the energy or the back to do the actual planting. Shortly after I left the bank, I was too hot with my jacket on, so I took it off, though I was still too hot by the time I got home.

For a while it was just barely warm enough to have the deck door open. In fact, it got a bit cool for comfort, but as long as the heat didn't get triggered, I put up with the chill to have the fresh air. By the end of next week, we should be getting high temperatures in the mid- to high 80s, and I call that pool weather. If there's no breeze, I'll even have to be careful to get out before it's too hot for me to be comfortable lying out in the sun. I'm also going to need to push myself into swimming since exercise is part of the point of going out.

My tentative plan is to start getting up a half hour or even an hour earlier than I have been, so I have plenty of time to finish my morning coffee and toast and still be ready to go out at about 10, when the pool opens. I’d like not to have pool time end up eating up most of the day, since I will have other things to do, like the occasional shopping run.
The Chamber of Secrets / Re: The Cat Room 2
« Last post by JudithC on May 30, 2024, 07:29:44 PM »
Last night Callisto stayed with us all night, and even after I got up, showered, and dressed. She followed me downstairs later, I think while I was performing my cat feeding duty but definitely in time to get her junk food along with the brothers. She started out under the covers between James and me, then moved to the space between our pillows, and finally ended up down between his feet. I'm still hoping she'll come upstairs on her own, though of course she has no reason to exert herself as long as James is willing to carry her.

Today's mission was finance - first writing the check for June HOA dues, and then dealing with getting my third and last CD renewed. My phone appointment about the CD ran longer than it needed to because she was quite chatty. Not in a bad way, but it did take time. She seemed quite impressed that I'd worked for Morgan Stanley, which I found kind of amusing considering how badly it ended for me.

My whole routine is likely to change when the pool opens on 6/10. According to the forecast, it's going to become summer toward the end of next week - bam! just like that. I'll probably have to miss the first pool day because I have my annual checkup scheduled for that morning, and by the time I finish the checkup part and the visit to the lab to leave blood for testing (almost typed tasting), I doubt I'll be in the mood for any more being outside.

I’ve done some online shopping, some of it even for stuff I needed. I found a pair of elastic waist jeans to replace the ones I’m wearing right now, which have multiple places where they no longer have the blue vertical threads, plus the actual rip in the seat that I’ve repaired but which looks particularly tacky.

Then there’s the medical/dental stuff. I’m using my last bottle of the medicated mouth rinse, so I got on the dental discount supply website and ordered another couple of bottles. I order them in pairs because that makes my order total qualify for free shipping. I also used my medical OTC benefit for the first time. I was going to order a bunch of meal replacement drinks, but the first thing that popped up was the glucosamine/chondroitin supplement I’m starting to need more of, so I ordered that and another bottle of old folks’ daily vitamins. That used up too much of my benefit for me to get the drinks, but I can find them locally for not a ridiculous amount of money.

I surrendered to temptation and bought the next Rizzoli & Isles book even though it cost me about $3 in real money. That’s not a horrible amount to pay for a book these days, though it does make me nostalgic for the days of $1.25 paperbacks. Then again, books that date back that far are probably collectors’ items, particularly if they’re out of print, and likely worth real money.
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