The whole movie upset me, because I just wanted them all to stop fighting and sit down and talk for an hour or so! But the whole plot of the movie seemed to be wrapped around how very little time they all had to sit down and think things over; everything snowballed and there wasn't TIME to decide things. They press for the Accords in three days, and during that time Steve hardly can even take a breath, between the fight with Crossbones rattling him and Peggy, and Tony is very, very distracted and guilt-laden after the Conference where he was blamed for the woman's son's death (forgive, I don't remember his name.) Things go from zero to sixty real fast. They all make on-the-fly decisions; Steve chooses to believe beyond a shadow of a doubt Bucky is innocent even when it seems he's guilty (and Steve is already INCREDIBLY leery of large organizations controlling his actions after SHIELD-is-HYDRA.)
Tony is guilty as heck and suffering from the loss of his support system (Pepper) and he's still paranoid and stressed and probably dealing with a lot of PTSD he's just not getting help for. (After the Chitauri, and then Ultron, he's acting held-together but he is scared as hell.) So he wants anyone to take the responsibility away from him, so he doesn't have to shoulder all that responsibility himself. He doesn't want to keep making the wrong decisions. Steve, on the other hand, believes in his own morals so deeply he would fight to the death for them. Most of the time they align with helping protect and save people, but he makes a good point that he doesn't want someone else to be responsible for his being able to help or not when he has the capability to...
And then by the end... AUGH. They almost come back to seeing eye-to-eye again, and then... it all gets flushed down the toilet. They even say, it stops being rational, and becomes entirely vengeance and emotional pain being taken out on one another. Which is terrible. And makes my poor, poor Bucky suffer.
Basically I have a lot of feelings for this movie, and a lot of feelings for all the characters, and I'm Team 'Please Stop Fighting and Think About This Without Your Fists For Five Minutes Okay'. (Tony has it right that there needs to be something more than the Avengers playing Vigilante, and Steve has it right that you can;t turn people into Weapons and Soldiers to be deployed like machines, but nether side seems to want to compromise and reach a middle ground. And the Accords don;t allow for that, for the most part, and there's no part where everyone sits and talks about the pros and cons for the ACTUAL PEOPLE INVOLVED that doesn't end in a metal-armed assassin accidentally getting in the way.)
Bucky is my baby, and I will always love him, but honestly, Ant-Man MIGHT be my new favorite Avenger. I really, really, really Like Scott WAY more than I expected. And Spider-man was amazing. But so was Hawkeye... and Vision was cute, and War Machine- I love them all please stop me I have no least favorite they are all my number 1.
But really my favorite moments are A, Bucky and his apartment of sadness, B, GIANT MAN, and C, WAKANDAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA.
Also the ridiculously antagonistic relationship between Falcon and Bucky, because it's exactly the kind of 'I will have your back and die for you but you are never going to hear the end of it' rivalry-friendship they have in the comics and I love it.